Self / 09.12.2014

Work the room: party confidence tips

By Blaire Palmer
Don’t feel awkward over the Christmas party season – follow Blaire Palmer’s game plan instead

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Apply these party confidence tips at your next work event and you’ll be a true socialite in no time.

1 Take a friend

Bringing a buddy to a party can help, especially if you have a strategy for meeting people. Avoid forming your own little clique by taking turns to muscle in on conversations (a simple ‘Could we join you?’ is acceptable).

You can also introduce each other, rather than having to introduce yourselves. It’s easier to say: ‘Suzy used to sing in a band,’ than: ‘I used to sing in a band.’

2 Channel a more gregarious person

I’m a believer in being your authentic self, but sometimes you need to find a part of yourself that’s more suited to the party scene. Channeling someone who’d be great at that party can help.

I typically channel Kirstie Allsopp or Nigella Lawson (one for daytime, one for evening – I leave it to you to work out which is which!). Picture how they’d behave, how they’d get involved in conversations, what questions they’d ask. You’ll still be you, just with a slightly different mind-set.

3 Don’t try to be too clever

A few years ago, I went to a party with a friend who turned out to be a brilliant guest. She was very skilled at starting conversations. While I felt self-conscious about small talk (‘So, what do you do?’ and ‘How do you know the hostess?’), she was happy to reel off these standard questions. I realised I was trying too hard to be clever by avoiding the tried-and-tested openers.

4 Be curious

As a coach, I ask a lot of questions. After a coaching session, the client will often tell me how much they’ve enjoyed our conversation. But it wasn’t really a conversation – they talked, I listened and asked a few questions. But it felt great to them! People like to talk about themselves when someone seems genuinely interested – and most people are full of fascinating stories, opinions and dreams. Don’t pressure yourself to be the life and soul of the party. Instead, ask questions, sit back and listen.

5 Party USA date-style

As we know from movies, American ‘dates’ are different to English ones, and one aspect is that it’s normal to ask random, light-hearted questions, such as: ‘Who’s your favourite superhero of all time?’, ‘What are your top three music tracks?’, or ‘If you could live anywhere, where would it be?’. These questions are also great to have in your toolbox at parties. If talk about the kids’ A-levels is sending you into a stupor, these kinds of questions can liven things up.

6 Go home

No one expects you to stay all evening and be the last to leave. When you’re done, say your thank yous and go home. Having a game plan helps, whatever the situation. Parties are no different. And you never know, you may end up enjoying yourself!

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Don't feel awkward over the Christmas party season, follow Blaire Palmer's party confidence tips.
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